There are four
different types of theories that explain family relations phenomena. What is a
phenomenon? A phenomenon is something observable we can see happening. We have
the conflict theory, the system theory, and the exchange theory.
First, we will
discuss the conflict theory. The conflict theory deals with those who are in power
that want to stay in power. The definition of power is being able to influence.
There is an assumption that men have the power in a relationship. That is not
always accurate. With conflict there usually ends up being someone with the upper
hand and starts pounding on the other person. We can see this among social
classes. Those in a higher social class might have more of an advantage because
they have more resources. Something that is interesting when looking at this
theory is that it is not natural for two people to come together and work
together to come to a solution that works for them both, so when this happens
it is truly a miracle. Can you think of a time when you were able to come to a
conclusion in a debate with someone and you both were able to reach a solution
that worked for the both of you? Please share it below!
An example
of conflict theory is when a man makes more money than his wife and she want,
to spend money on something. It can be as simple as groceries, and he says that
she cannot do that even though they have a joint banking account. They have
decided that they will have one account and instead of having a “us, we, and
ours” mentality he has a “me, my, and mine” mentality. Therefore, instead of
her being able to use those finances that he has made to support his family and
her buying things to support the family (like food, bills, diapers, and
whatever a family may need to survive) she has to ask his permission to buy
those things. Instead of him seeing her as an equal, he is using the conflict
theory and exercising power over her.
System
theory is another explanation of a family phenomenon. The system theory includes
rules that influence each other. These are usually unspoken rules. Through
observation and experience you learn those unspoken rules. You can also see the
roles and expectations that come. For example, girls are typically seen as the
ones to play with Barbies, Polly Pockets, watch princess movies, while boys’
roles typically consist of thinking boogers, bugs, and spiders are cool.
I have found
that my role in the family is to be the peacemaker. My teacher asked, “How did
you get there?” When he initially asked, I wanted to say because I was
naturally put there. It’s like the role fell upon me. Many people who are also
the peacemaker in their families felt this way as well. As I pondered more, I
realized that it also includes observation and experience. Having been a
peacemaker once, little by little I get more experience and get to be the
peacemaker more. This can be as simple as solving a problem between my little
brother and sister. My sister will want to watch Barbie: Life in the Dreamhouse
and my brother will want to watch PJ Masks and will start arguing about it so
then I can step in and we can settle on either watching Zig and Sharko, or
taking turns and they each can watch an episode of the show they want to watch.
Then we
have the exchange theory. This is also known as the “you owe me” theory. This
is not seen as equality but as if I give you something then you will give me
something. Sadly, this theory gathers more proof when we look at the divorce rate. Many
people help us see this theory when they have the mentality of “If I’m getting
plenty of the stuff I like and not having to pay so much then I’ll keep this
relationship going.” An example of this might be if my roommate doesn’t want to
date a guy anymore because she is putting more time and effort into their
relationship that he does.
Finally, we
have the symbolic interaction theory. This theory views humans primarily as
cognitive creatures who are influenced and shaped by their interaction
experiences. An example of this would be an interaction between people almost
with an alternative motive. For example, if a guy comes over to a girl’s
apartment and sticks around he might really be there because he likes her and
wants to ask her out. He will grow closer to her and want to be her friend, but
also for that relationship to grow into something more. She starts flipping her
hair, offering him food, and laughing at all his stupid jokes. Based on their
interactions he will be encouraged to ask her out on a date.
There are
many types of theories and they can be very interesting. Maybe while reading
this you have thought of an experience that you have had that might explain one
of these theories. Please share it below!
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